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NLP Technique Articles
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OCD
OCD is an anxiety disorder which is characterised by repeated anxious thoughts that cause a compulsion to perform a particular behaviour. However performing the behaviour usually provides only a short term relief from the anxiety as the anxious thought occurs again usually only a short time later. Not performing the behaviour creates a greater anxiety than its repeated performance.
Sometimes these thoughts occur in the mind as a nagging reminder and others experience a visual reminder by actually seeing pictures in their mind too. There are many different things that can be obsessed about- it may be locking the door, checking the fridge is closed or hand washing. Sometimes a person experiences such a degree of doubt they will repeat the behaviours several times over before being able to continue normal activity. As the NLP communication model teaches us, there is a link between Thinking, Feeling and behaviour and OCD also highlights this process. For example someone who is concerned that they have not turned off the gas oven may be creating pictures in their mind of an explosion occurring in their kitchen, this would lead to an anxious worried feeling so they behave by checking the oven. However instead of then creating a new picture of the kitchen being fine, they continue to rerun the explosion picture and the cycle continues to occur.
NLP can be useful for tackling both the negative picture making and the nagging thoughts. By reviewing exactly what a person is saying to themselves they can begin to challenge their nagging thoughts for authenticity and truth. New thought strategies can be installed so that the person can evoke a different feeling and a more empowering behaviour.
Using a submodality intervention, there can be a rapid and immediate impact upon the pictures that are created which would also lead to a new feeling and behavioural response. Submodalities are the finer distinctions on modalities, and modalities are simply your senses. So a submodality intervention for a picture that someone is making would mean changing the qualities of that picture which would distort the coding that normally leads to a bad feeling happening. When the coding is changed the feelings cannot work in the same way any longer. In addition, a new picture can be imagined, which creates a good feeling. This can be visually rehearsed so that the person begins to create new neural networks within their mind to install the behaviour they see happening, making it likely that they will behave in that new way in the future.
Treatment for Phobias and Fears
Every time we experience the world, we do so through our 5 senses- see it, hear it, taste it, smell it or feel it. It is only once we have taken that information in and processed it, that we apply a meaning to it. Sometimes the meaning we apply will be based on our previous contact and experiences. So if we have had an experience which led to some negative emotions - such as fear (or if we have learned a negative response from someone else) it is likely that when we come into contact with that same stimuli again, we will have the same negative feelings each time. What this tells us however, is that it is not the stimuli that creates the negative emotion (because this is just sensory information) but the meaning that has been applied to the sensory information. So next time somebody tells you “It’s all in your head” you can agree with them!
In NLP we use a process called the logical levels of therapy to uncover the rules and strategies that a person uses to make their fear or phobia “work.” For example, if a person has a phobia of spiders, there will be certain things that they think about spiders, there will be certain ways they remember spiders, there will be pictures that they make in their minds and even certain beliefs that they have about spiders. When these rules and strategies are challenged, they will be unable to use the rules and strategies in the same way. This called a pattern interrupt that will prevent the person reaching the stage of feeling bad, which would usually be the end response to having experienced their phobic stimuli.
NLP also utilises a technique called the fast phobia cure. This is a process that works with the submodalities or codes that we have in our minds when we represent information to ourselves. These codes are made up of sensory related content and most commonly we work with the Visual, Auditory and Kinaesthetic information. When this information is distorted, this again has the impact of changing the way we feel. This process is done after first ensuring that the client has a “resource anchor” which is a build up of positive emotions that they can access whenever they feel that they need to throughout the process. The Fast Phobia cure also desensitizes the feelings the client has by replaying their most significant experience with their phobic stimuli very fast (in their mind), forwards in Black and white and backwards in colour several times. This repetition has the impact of reducing the feelings associated with the event.
I also like to use Hypnotherapy and EFT when working with phobias. Hypnotherapy can work really well at the end of the fast phobia process to ensure the client is feeling calm (particularly if you want to test their recovery by exposing them to the stimuli that would have previously caused them to experience the phobic response) and also to install some positive suggestions for how they can react differently in the future.
EFT is a tapping technique that works on the meridian points (or acupuncture points) throughout the body.
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By Gemma Bailey
Dealing with Compulsive Disorders
A definition of what compulsion means is usually worded in the following kind of way: A psychological and usually irrational force that makes somebody do something, often unwillingly.
These "irrational forces" are, in the case of compulsive disorders, caused by repetitive thoughts, or mental activity. This is an important factor in understanding and beginning to alter the way that the person with the compulsion represents the problem to themselves. By understanding that the irrational force is caused by the persons own thoughts and activities, we begin to move the problem away from some outside force that is making them do something, and towards understanding that the problem is something that is caused by themselves. They may not yet feel as if they are in control of their own thoughts because they have got into such an automatic pattern with their thinking that it is occurring as if they have no control of it. And it absolutely will feel that way. After all, whose thoughts are they? In whose head? Whose mind is that? Who is the only one listening to those thought? If there is no one else in your head, they must be your own thoughts! And this is a great thing to acknowledge because it means that accepting responsibility for those thought puts the "thinker" back in control so that they have a much greater potential to create changes.
The first thing I would explore with a compulsive client is what Complex Equivalence exists in their mind about this problem. What does this problem mean? What is it trying to achieve? What does it allow them to do? What do they believe would happen if they stopped this behaviour? Quite often fear is a big driver of the compulsive behaviour, and frequently the fear exists to keep the person safe. When you know what this problem means, its truth and validity can be explored. Quite often there is no logical link between the behaviour / thoughts and the "reasons" why it is occurring. For example, one lady I met felt compelled to check the locks on her car (to the degree that she had to have new ones fitted every 6 months) and her greatest fear was linked to the safety of her father after he had nearly died. The was no obvious link between her father’s incident and the repeated behaviour of locking her car. Knowing this didn't make the problem stop, but it did encourage her to question the validity of the problem which had felt like a very solid problem before she had thought about it in this way.
The next step can be taken if you believe that the client’s problem may be related to a significant emotional event. A values elicitation can be very worthwhile for discovering what "away from" values exist in their values hierarchy and can help uncover SEE's that the client might not have consciously realised were still having a negative impact.
As well as, or instead of this, I would use the fast phobia technique. The fast phobia technique doesn't have to be restricted to phobias only. It is a process which is very useful at desensitising the negative emotions that occur when trigger by stimuli so that the person can be around the stimuli without feeling negative emotions. This means there is the opportunity to be around things that used to make them feel a compulsion and no longer feel it.
The compulsion blowout method can be used to demolish the submodalities associated to the stimuli. Submodalities are the codes that we use to make meaning of our experiences and memories. When these are adjusted, the memory / experience will no longer work in the same way as it did in the past.
There is of course a lot of room for manouver, as a therapist I am flexible in my approach and will adjust techniques that I already know if I think there is a way of having them work in a more appropriate way for that specific client. Other techniques I have used have included advising the client that they can do as much as they like of one compulsion, but have to trade off another. This works really well for multiple compulsions as the list slowly whittles down until there is just one compulsion to deal with. By this time they have also built up confidence in their own abilities.
A friend once told me that he felt compulsed to run indoors whenever a helicopter flew overhead. He was not too sure where this fear had come from or why. One day he was picnic in a large open field with his girlfriend. A helicopter flew overhead and there was nowhere to run to. His fear occurred and he had to sit through it, and as a result of doing so realised that actually he was o.k. His fear was pushed beyond its threshold and as a result ceased to exist in that context any longer.
Obviously the best course of therapy may not be to use the "going beyond the threshold" technique but it is certainly a good idea to test the reaction to the stimuli once some work has been done so that the client is able to confirm their level of improvement.
Using NLP to Create More Confidence
As pressures to earn money increase, the pressures to work harder, smarter and faster increase also. It is rarely a surprise to me to have clients who are struggling with their levels of confidence despite having what could be perceived as very successful lives. Solicitors, CEO's and managing directors have regularly graced my doorstep, feeling that they are unable to measure up to the aggressive demands placed upon them. Many who are in powerful roles find that they are simply crumbling under the strain. They have been educated at the very best universities and colleges, obtaining firsts in their degrees, withstood enormous pressure during exams and completing coursework, and then later discover that they have never learnt how to be confident or how to assert themselves. The negative self defeating thoughts begin and slowly but surely the problem begins to spiral.
The steps I take with a client with confidence problems are generally similar- there is information they can all benefit from knowing about. The NLP communication model is always a great starting point as I usually find that there is some negative self talk or disempowering "movies" that the client runs in their mind.
I also talk to them about creating and building rapport, so that in situations where they need to be confident, they are first comfortable that they have a connection with those that they are communicating with. Confidence tends to be less of an issue with those who do not have to communicate with others; it is generally the communication itself that shows up the confidence issues. I always have them guess the most powerful way in which they communicate- is it in the words they use, their tone of voice or their physiology? Many of them are startled by the results of how people communicate in congruence with each other. At this point the mind and body link become apparent. They begin to realise what signals other have been picking up from them and how their thoughts have had a negative effect on the way that they are feeling. I might give some information about sensory predicates and how we live in sensory systems. This can be beneficial to know because again, the client will feel more comfortable and confident if they know how to communicate with other by "speaking in the language" that the listener likes to hear.
During the consultation, I am obviously asking lots of questions, and during this time, I have a great opportunity to observe how this person who lacks confidence is using their body. If I find that they are slumped in the chair, shallow breathing, looking down, then later, I will point this out to them. I will begin to shape their physiology into that of someone who is confident. Then I will introduce them to the Satir categories- a set of "personality types" identified by family therapist Virginia Satir, and have them try out the different physiologies that go with these. What they will notice is that by trying out the physiology, their energy shifts into the emotions and feeling associated with that physiology. They can then begin to practice communicating in the more powerful physiologies to get their bodies and mind better aligned to powerful and confident feelings. I often notice that people, who are not in a confident zone, have their bodies in a "placator" physiology. This gives off signals such as "I don't know" or "I'm sorry" and "I can't help it."And their energy will be here too.
These are the basics that I always cover, and there are many other NLP techniques to advance the clients confidence further. A Swish Pattern for example, will deal with confidence issues that occur in a specific context, a New Orleans flexibility Drill can help overcome anxieties related to a particular person and a resource anchor can give a much needed boost of positive emotions that can be triggered whenever the client wants to tap into them.
The NLP communication model- a good starting point for therapy
NLP is an art and a science. It is based on the idea that the sensory information around us is translated into thoughts and ideas, which affect our state, physiology and behaviour and therefore our results. Our words also affect our experience and the experience of others. NLP teaches us how to use communication more effectively. NLP also tells us that we code or represent information to ourselves in certain ways. How we do code information varies between events we perceive as positive and negative. NLP teaches specific strategies and techniques that we can learn in order to represent this information differently to produce better results. These strategies are used at my NLP, CBT and Hypnotherapy practice in .
The NLP communication model explains clearly how we process and use information and how this affects our state, physiology and behaviour. This is why it is a good starting point for therapy and I will always explain it to clients attending their first session of CBT, NLP or Hypnotherapy. It is really important for clients to understand this model in order to be able to make changes to how they view their world.
What we know is that every second we are bombarded by sensory feedback (an estimated 2 million bits of information every second) from our 5 senses Visual (sight), Auditory (hearing), Kinaesthetic (feeling & touch), Olfactory (smelling) and Gustatory (tasting). In any given moment we are selective as to what information we pay attention to because of course we cannot possibly hope to process all of the information. Memory theorists suggest we can handle or remember about 7 new bits of information at once.
This means that we filter the 2 million bits of information into about 7 bits. The way we do this is by deleting, distorting or generalizing. Deletion means we do not attend to information that is not relevant in the moment, distortion means we adapt the information to make it fit with what we believe or are on the look-out for, generalization helps us to relate new information to what we already know. These three processes are crucial, as they prevent us from being overloaded with information and allow us to function.
However, what this also means is that we do not have the full picture because we have ignored or changed information during the filtering process. Using the 7 bits of information that have filtered we recreate the outside event inside our mind. This is called an internal representation. This mean that what we represent to ourselves inside our minds is never true to what is actually happening in the event
Our internal representations are a re-presentation of the original information after filtering. Because the information we take in is via our 5 senses, our internal representations are made up of thoughts, feelings, sounds, pictures, smell and tastes. Importantly, the way we represent or code information in our internal representation affects how we feel, which in turn affects our physiology and behavior. What we know is that happy people tend to filter and represent information differently to depressed or anxious people. More importantly via cognitive therapy such as NLP or hypnotherapy, people experiencing mental distress can learn to filter in a way that allows refreshed perspectives and a different emotional experience.
NLP and Hypnotherapy to cure allergies is not to be sniffed at!
How often do we accept a label and fully live up to it? Well the answer may be many more times than we should. The challenge that we have as human beings is that we have used words to identify things, but the words are never fully reflective of the true experience.
For example, lets say you go to the doctors one summers day because your eyes are sore and your nose is runny. The likely hood is that your doctor, whom you respect and trust will apply a label to your symptoms, in an effort to provide an explanation of your experience so that it can then be treated.
So your doctor tells you, have Hay fever. From that Summer onwards you grow to expect your Hay fever visitor. You know how you will feel, what your symptoms will be, when they will start, when they will stop. You even compare your suffering with other sufferers, to compete against who suffers the most!
When do you know to stop being a Hay fever sufferer- how do you know that you haven't grown out of it? Could your expectation of it be the sole reason that it is continually re-created?
How about stress? Is that a factor for allergy sufferers? For many asthmatics eczema and psoriasis sufferers it is a deciding factor in the severity of the condition.
So how can NLP and hypnosis help? Well as we know one of the major frames of NLP is the cause and effect frame. This moves the client out of “I suffer” and into “I create.” This in itself may not be enough to stop the allergic reaction, but does at least get the client away from relying on a treatment for the problem and looking more towards how they continue to cause it. Perhaps they can begin to notice how their diet affects their level of resistance, or to look for homeopathic and natural remedies to counteract the symptoms.
For those whose Symptoms are aggravated by stress, Hypnosis is especially beneficial at creating relaxation and relieving tension and suggestions for healing can be given to the patient.
An NLP Technique For The Treatment Of Phobias
If you have a phobia that impacts significantly on your life, that leads to you avoiding situations, feeling overwhelmed or highly anxious, then you may be interested in this article about an NLP (Neuro Linguistic Programming) technique. I have found this treatment technique, at my NLP and Hypnotherapy practice, very useful in helping people recover from intense and impairing phobias. It is also used to help people deal with memories from traumatic events.
What we know is that when someone has a phobia or has experienced a traumatic event which still bothers them in the present, they tend to regularly re-live or replay their phobia or trauma by seeing a picture and then getting all the bad feelings that go with that picture.
I have treated many people for phobias at my NLP and Hypnotherapy practice. For example, Sarah came to see me at my NLP practice, because she was due to give a reading at her best-friends wedding and was terrified of public speaking. The wedding was six weeks away, and Sarah was constantly feeling anxious and dreading the event, which she felt guilty about. Sarah was also frustrated at how her fear was holding her back at work.
After carrying out a consultation with Sarah it became obvious that her fear began during childhood as she had several strong memories of feeling highly anxious in situations that required her to speak or be the centre of attention. For example, Sarah would often replay her memory of trying to make herself vomit in the toilets at a children's party so that she could avoid helping a magician in front of the other children.
Sarah has many vivid visual memories related to her phobia that caused her anxiety but often people will have one image and associated feelings that they tend to replay. During our therapy sessions, at NLP and Hypnotherapy, I explained to Sarah about the Fast Phobia technique (also called the visual/kinesthetic dissociation technique). This process involves replaying the visual memory of the anxiety provoking incident but in a completely different way then Sarah had been used to. By replaying the memory in a different way, the loop of seeing a picture (V) and then experiencing unpleasant feelings (K) is broken. This enables the person to process and recode the event, to give it a new meaning, so that it is no longer a problem or is at the very least significant less anxiety provoking.
This technique works best with people who are able to visualize well and since this was the case with Sarah, we set to work on each of her events that she associated with her phobia and which still cause her anxiety. Prior to working on each of the events, Sarah was asked to rate how anxiety provoking each memory was.
In the first part of the phobia treatment, Sarah was asked to imagine that she was in a cinema sitting in a chair watching the screen. On the screen was a Black and White movie of a traumatic event she had chosen to work on. So Sarah would be watching a movie of herself in the event. Before she did this however, Sarah was asked to imagine herself floating upwards towards and into the projection booth, so that she was now going to watch herself in the cinema seat, watching a move of herself! The purpose of this part of the phobia technique is that is enables the person to review the movie but dissociated from the feelings.
These are very important changes that allow a new perception for the client. Changing the color image on the screen to black & white reduces the intensity of the movie being watched and suggests that it is old and in the past. By stepping into an outside observer position, Sarah is removed from the event, enabling her to watch the event with it feeling much less threatening. Sarah was then asked to play the movie through remaining dissociated. This enabled Sarah to think about the memory without having the fearful feeling for the first time.
During the second half of the treatment process Sarah was asked to imagine leaving the projection booth and walking up and stepping into the movie screen. Once inside the screen she was asked to change the movie to color and told to watch the movie backwards as if on rewind. This time Sarah was associated into the event, seeing through her own eyes. Sarah was told to rewind the movie as quickly as she could. This part was repeated several times until Sarah was able to play the movie backwards faster and faster. This time we played music at the same time. The chosen music was from a cartoon and was quick paced and comical. Both parts of the process were repeated several times. Sarah found that the movie became light hearted and non-anxiety provoking. In fact when we worked on her wedding speech she found she imagined the audience warming to her and herself feeling confident and relaxed. She even had the audience dancing along!!!
Through using this technique Sarah was able to re-process all of her scary memories of speaking events and felt much more confident and ready to deliver her wedding speech. Other techniques such as anchoring were also taught to help Sarah on the day. NLP and Hypnotherapy uses the Fast Phobia Technique to support people in overcoming phobias.
Magic Pills Do Not Exist – Even NLP Ones!
As an NLP master practitioner who runs an NLP practice, I am one of the first to sing the praises of NLP as a therapy tool, as I believe it can be a really effective instrument for change work, when used in the hands of a good NLP practitioner.
However, as an occupational therapist, and having worked in mainstream NHS mental-healthcare, I also believe that NLP at times sends out a misleading vibe, which cannot be said of some of the more traditional therapies. By this I mean that NLP can give the impression of being this magical therapy that will cure people in minutes, when years of psychotherapy, counselling, cognitive behavioural therapy etc. has had little or no effect.
The result of this misconception about NLP, is that clients can turn up for a consultation at NLP, expecting the therapist to wave her magic wand, with little or no effort on their part. Like all therapies, NLP relies heavily on the client's commitment and motivation to want to change.
A good therapist or NLP practitioner will want evidence of this commitment, in terms of the client being willing to engage fully in the process, particularly spending initial therapy sessions learning the fundamental principles of NLP such as the major frames, the communication model and presuppositions.
It is crucial for the client to ‘buy into' these principles such as the frame ‘being at cause' and to fully understand the impact of the way they filter life experiences on their state and behaviour, before any of the ‘magic' can begin.
Unlike other therapies, NLP does have specific techniques such as the Fast Phobia Cure, Swish, Change Personal History and Parts Integration that are rather glamorous. In my opinion, these techniques do work very well, only always when they are supplemented by the more mundane psycho-educational work.
I recently had a highly agitated client turn up for a therapy consultation expecting that I could ‘do something' immediately to help him feel better. This client had experience of other more traditional therapies and my hunch is that he would not of expected the same of his psychotherapist!
NLP is not about a therapist doing a technique on a client that will solve all their problems in an instant. It is a highly effective therapy that can lead to new options in thinking and behaviour when the client works alongside the therapist. Like other therapies such as CBT, NLP strategies and any new positive behavioural and emotional habits require practice and hard work by the client.
So, if your looking for a quick fix, NLP isn't it! And any practitioner that tells you otherwise is probably after your money. Don't let this put you off seeking NLP. It is very effective and if you want change in your life and are prepared to work towards it with the therapists support, you will have change.
I Love NLP, but I'm not a Nerd!
NLP has taken the therapy world by storm and quite rightly so. It creates rapid lasting change and you don't need a PHD to learn the simple skills. There are many, many trainers and training company's pumping out Practitioner by the hundreds and it would be fair to say that there are varying degrees of competency amongst these. I certainly have been amongst those who have argued in the past that some training school are responsible for poor quality NLP training, thus sending out inexperienced practitioners into the world, free to practice in the therapeutic world of the venerable and insecure.
The challenge with NLP in my opinion, is not finding somewhere to learn it, or someone to teach it, but, actually being good at it. For me, there are two factors that can influence the ability of each individual practitioner.
- Charisma
Even the most intense, most specialised NLP training course has yet to find a way of teaching this natural elegance to it's delegates. I'm talking about the elegance that would just ease out of someone like Milton Erickson in an artfully conversational way creating major changes to the listeners' unconscious mind. Is this a skill that can be learned? If so, how is it taught? Are there people that can never really learn this and are these people practising NLP? Yes of course they are. They are the people who attend the courses to become therapists, yet what they really need is to see a therapist. I'll never forget, when we first set up People Building and were emailing therapists from all areas to let them know we were on the map. One lady emailed back saying that she was already an NLP Practitioner and had been personally trained by Dr. Richard Bandler and therefore didn't need to be aware of our services. I had to bind my hands together to prevent the temptation of emailing back “That doesn't mean you're any good though, does it?” - The Law of Requisite Variety (the person with the most flexibility of behaviour has the greatest influence over others.)
I remember once when I attended an EFT seminar and met a very interesting bunch of therapists called Guided Self Healers. I don't know anything about Guided Self Healing, so far be it from me to pass judgement on what they do, but I can tell you that they all seemed to be a bunch of nutters. I sat with them whilst they chatted enthusiastically about what number I was. They were sure I was a 9. I don't know what being a 9 means, but I also know I am a Pisces (which this week means I'm going to meet a stranger, according to my horoscopes- how difficult can that be?!) I'm also a Goat (Chinese astrology) right handed, visual (mainly) and blonde (naturally dumb).
The thing with NLP is it's great when you use it with a degree of fluidity. Yes, strategies can work, but a complex strategy may be run unconsciously. If you want to elicit an unconscious strategy from someone, they will become conscious about what they are doing, what happens to the strategy then? Yes, anchors can work, but if the client thinks it's all a load of poppycock, are they going to experience the state when he anchor is tested? Yes, I'm mainly visual, but probably not when I have my singing lessons. It's great that this stuff works, but being a true NLPer is about accepting that sometimes you get a different result to the one you were expecting, and to expect that anything else could happen instead. Lets stop putting people in boxes and expecting the norm and instead accept that actually anyone can be whatever they choose to do or be. Only then, can we practice as therapists who truly access all of our own internal resources in order to facilitate changes within the clients that we are working with.
Anchoring For Emotional Balance
Most people experience life as a roller-coaster of different emotional states, accepting without question that emotions are something that just happen in response to life events.In any given day, you may experience a range of states, some positive and some that are negative or distressing.The emotional state we are in is so important as it affects how we behave and the results we get.If you are feeling positive and happy, of course the whole world seems better and more interesting and the way you behave will reflect this.
In fact emotional states are not something that happen to us, rather we create them based on how we view the world.We all know a really positive person who takes everything in their stride or a friend who seems to get upset at the slightest concern.In these modern times, it is how we respond to perceived threats that cause us stress and problems.
Imagine being able to control and regulate your emotions so that life is more balanced or being able to access resourceful emotional states when you need them. Neuro-linguistic programming (NLP) therapy is a way that you can learn to manage your emotional state and change it at will in order to experience emotional freedom.When clients come to see me for NLP, I am able to teach them the tools of anchoring so that they can bring harmony and emotional balance to their life.
Anchors are naturally occurring associations between an external stimulus and a behavioural or emotional response.They occur because the human mind constantly seeks to make sense of the environment by looking for patterns and associations between things.It is likely that you have had the experience of hearing a certain piece of music that reminds you of a person or event from the past or have smelt perfume or some other smell that reminds you of someone you know. Hopefully, most people see a red traffic light and automatically know to stop!Not all anchors are positive.People learn to make negative associations between things, such as feeling anxious or worried when they are asked to go to their bosses office or when they are required to give a presentation to colleagues.
NLP deliberately makes use of anchors in order to empower people to have control over their emotional states.There are specific NLP techniques in which a stimulus is used to trigger and link an emotional state.The stimulus is usually external and may be a sound or touch.Through these techniques it is possible to for an individual to build up a resource of positive emotional states, which they can access in any situation in which they need them.It is also possible to completely collapse negative anchors so that external stimuli that cause you negative emotional states will no longer be a problem.
You will already have all positive emotional resources within you that you need.NLP, can enable you to make use of these.Having this control will have a profound effect on all aspects of your life, particularly your relationships.You will find that you are able to behave in new and flexible ways.If you feel learning to use anchors would benefit you, it would be advisable to see an NLP practitioner.Anchoring is something that you can learn to self-administer and is a life-long skill that will get you better results.
The process involves remembering specific times in the past when you have experienced the emotional resource you wish to anchor.What great is that you can borrow positive emotional resources that occur in response to certain situations in your life and use them in other situations where wish you had them! So, the motivation that you felt in planning a particular holiday can be borrowed and used as the motivation you need in order to get you to the gym!
Why not spend time now thinking about specific times in the past when you have felt happy or have been laughing so hard it hurts! You will be amazed at all the positive emotions you have experienced and how it is possible to re-create these feelings again just by thinking about them. Do this and you are well on your way to being the boss of your emotional state.
4 Tips For Anchoring- An NLP Practitioners tool.
As a hypnotherapist and NLP Master practitioner, it gives me great joy to be able to share with you one of the most commonly used and simple techniques. The way it is explained to you below, is exactly the way I use it, and by following the simple steps below you can achieve instant access to positive feelings and emotions.
Anchoring is a valuable tool used by hypnotherapists and NLP Practitioners. It is one of the simplest techniques available and can create massive and powerful changes of state in another person in an instant.
Just imagine having access to your most resourceful state- confidence, creativity, motivation, relaxation, power- at the touch of a button.
1. Why use Anchoring?
Anchoring is an NLP technique used to move a client very quickly, into a positive resourceful state (emotion). This could be used to get someone into a confident state when giving a presentation or perhaps a relaxed state when confronting a fear or phobia or to give instant motivation when faced with a challenge.
2. What is an Anchor?
An Anchor is an internal state which is triggered by an external stimulus. For example, have you even caught a whiff of someone's perfume and been reminded of someone that you know, and had an experience of feeling all of the feelings that you have towards that person? Or perhaps you've heard a song that has, literally, in your mind, taken you back momentarily to a time in the past or a specific event?
The Anchors we create when using NLP and hypnotherapy and Kinaesthetic anchors (the positive internal feeling is triggered by a touch).
3. How do you create a Positive Resource Anchor?
Recall a time in the past when you have felt the way you want to feel when your Anchor is fired. As you vividly remember that time, remembering everything you saw as if you were seeing it again, back through your own eyes, hear what you heard and feel the feeling you had at that time.
When the feeling is at its strongest, "anchor" it by making a gesture, or gently pressing or squeezing an appropriate and accessible part of your body, e.g. making a fist, pushing the palm of your hand etc.
Break your state by jiggling your body or moving in some way then repeat the above using a different and equally positive memory from the past, then anchor that. Repeat this several times to make the anchor strong.
Then test how strong your anchor is by breaking your state and then firing it off. Notice how great you feel!
4. What if.....? Your questions answered!
If your anchor is weak, try anchoring more vividly remembered times. Make sure you really put yourself into the state and remember to apply the anchor at the peak of the good feeling.
Apply you anchor in a unique place/ way. You wouldn't want to have an anchor for elated joy by shaking your hand as this might not be an appropriate state to go into each time someone shakes your hand! Your anchor must also be located somewhere upon you that is easy for you to repeat and fire off later, without making you look suspicious in front of others!
What if I work in a business setting, how could this be used?
Anchors don't have to be created and triggered by a touch. You could use your voice in a certain way every time you want to get others into a motivated state or perhaps Anchor key words, such as trust, to yourself, when selling your product in a presentation. So verbally you are saying to your customers that they can trust the product you are selling, but you anchor the word "trust" to yourself.
There are many other techniques involved when creating major lasting changes in people's lives. For more information about what these are and how they can be used to tackle specific problems, visit the link below and get in touch.
Believe You Can Change
In any therapeutic intervention that is designed to achieve change, it is important to have an understanding of the beliefs and values held by the person wishing to change.NLP therapists are able to work with clients to eradicate limiting beliefs.NLP therapists are available to provide NLP in Herts.
Have you ever taken the time to stop and think about your beliefs and values.Ask yourself – where have my beliefs originated? How do they guide how I live my life? Do my values and beliefs serve me?
Beliefs and Values form the essence of your identity and you should ask yourself these questions for the following reasons:
Beliefs are like a pair of glasses
Put your glasses on and they filter how you view the world.Beliefs act in the same way.You will have beliefs about yourself, your skills and capabilities, how others see you and what type of person you are. You will also have beliefs about other people, how they operate, how to communicate with them, what drives them.Basically, you have beliefs about everything, including the world, politics, social issues, concepts, and religion.Beliefs underlie your internal representations, which is your map of the world.Your beliefs also filter sensory data that you take in from the environment and favour sensory data that supports and confirms your beliefs.We know form NLP models that the internal representations people hold effect their emotional state and behaviour.Therefore, beliefs have an influence on your emotional state and behaviour.
Beliefs and Values are your motivators
The core beliefs you hold are your motivators, they are the basis from which you function in the world.People tend to works towards things that they value.For example, if you value having a high-powered career this may take priority over other aspects of your life such as time with your family.
Beliefs distort how you view the world
Every belief and value is basically a generalisation that you have made abut the world.Generalisations are distortions.Often when a client presents with a problem, there is a distorted belief or value behind it.For example, “my partner doesn't phone me enough, this means he doesn't love me”.Once you are able to become more aware of the distorted beliefs you hold, it is possible to begin to question them and challenge them.NLP therapy has a specific tool called the meta-model that is able to uncover the troublesome distortions and generalisations that people are making.
Beliefs and values determines what happens to you
Beliefs about the world and yourself can actually determine what happens.They are not just thoughts but effect what you focus on.We know in NLP that what you focus on your more likely to get.This is because your unconscious mind cannot understand negatives.So for example, if you focus on not being in debt, your unconscious mind will be on the lookout for debt in the environment and various ways to bring debt to your attention.NLP therapy teaches people the importance of communicating in the positive when you are thinking.This means saying what you do want not what you don't want. Most people have heard of the placebo effect.This is a phenomenon in which a pill is given which contains no active ingredients.There are many studies that show that people given a placebo will experience a therapeutic benefit and in some cases get well based on the belief that they will be well.
Changing your beliefs
As an NLP therapist, people often come to see me at my NLP practice in Herts because they are having problems with limiting beliefs, e.g. “No one could find me attractive”,“I cant lose weight or give up smoking”, “I'm useless in social situations”, “I'm bad at presentations”.Of, course, they are often not aware that their belief is the source of their unhappiness when they initially come to see me.Limiting beliefs hold people back and prevent them from doing things they want too.When we believe we cant do something our behaviour will usually confirm this. As discussed above, you will act in a way and look out for evidence to confirm your beliefs.NLP and CBT therapy has effective techniques for changing illogical and limiting beliefs that can allow you to move on and experience the world through a new pair of glasses.There is no excuse to let your limiting beliefs hold you back any longer!
Emotional Freedom with Change Personal History
Change Personal History, is one of the most powerful techniques in an NLP practitioners toolbox.When clients come to see me for NLP, Herts at my NLP practice, Herts, it is possible to empower them to achieve emotional freedom using this technique.
Human beings only exist in the present.What we know is that we are constantly bombarded with sensory data from the environment.In order to make sense of this information, we filter it and store it as an internal representation or map.Anything not being experienced in the moment is a memory.
Often when individuals come to see me, for NLP in Herts, it is the memory of past events that are causing them a problem in the present.Specifically, it is the way the person re-experiences the past event during the process of remembering that accounts for distress in the present.
Change Personal History works by enabling the person to re-evaluate and make changes to the memory of past events.What's more, the person is able to make use of current resources and knowledge that they have now, but didn't have access to at the time the event occurred.So, whilst it's not ever possible to change what actually happened, it is possible to change the meaning of past events and hence the effect this has on an individual's behaviour.
During the Change Personal History process, the client is supported in re-living the event firstly in a dissociated state and secondly in an associated state, with the aid of a stacked resource anchor.The anchor is carefully chosen and built by the client and NLP practitioner.The client is giving the opportunity to imagine speaking directly to those involved in the event (this is done out loud), enabling the client to express what they needed too but were unable too at the time the event occurred.The client is supported to make changes to the event, to make it how they want it to be, with the benefit of the chosen resources.Other steps are included in the process, depending on the nature of the problematic past memory and unique needs and goals of the client.
In my experience, this technique is very effective and there is no longer any need for people to allow past memories to keep impacted on life in the present.If you feel you may benefit from experiencing the change personal history process, it may be worthwhile booking an appointment with an NLP practitioner.This technique is available at NLP, Herts.
3 Things You Must Do If You Want To Change Your Behaviours in a Swish
In this article we discuss how unwanted behaviours can be eliminated in an NLP technique called a Swish Pattern. This technique is also employed by hypnotherapists, and can be used to round off sessions regarding weight loss and smoking.
1. Create a picture in your mind of the behaviour you no longer want to have.
Using this picture you can already begin to make changes to the way you feel about the unwanted behaviour. Notice what happens when you dull the colour in the picture or move it further away. Changing the fine details (Submodalities) can remove the emotional content that is programmed in your mind to associate to that picture.
2. Create a picture of a new empowering alternative.
This is a picture of a new behaviour that will replace the old behaviour. See yourself in this picture (dissociated). This is so that when your brain views it, it sees it as something you wish to achieve. If you're looking through your own eyes in the picture (associated), your mind may believe that you have already achieved the desired behaviour and will not provide you with an adequate level of motivation to achieve it.
3. Make the change as quickly as Swish!
Put the picture of the unwanted behaviour on a big screen in your mind. Then in the lower left hand corner, make the picture of the desired behaviour. As quickly as you can say swish, move the picture of the desired behaviour over and in front of the picture of the unwanted behaviour, covering it completely, then open your eyes. Do this process several times, until you feel unable to recall the picture of the unwanted behaviour or the feelings that went with it. As you repeat the process, do so very quickly. The key to this technique is to confuse the old wiring in your mind with the use of the speed at which you change the pictures.
Swish patterns are great to use on your own but if you would like to adopt some other powerful techniques to use with it, then give me a call in my office in Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire where I can discuss with you the benefits of NLP and Hypnosis.
Gemma Bailey is qualified hypnotherapist and NLP Master Practitioner.
She is based in Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire and has helped many clients and patients throughout South East England. please visit her website for more information
Peripheral Vision
Sometimes in life, the simple things are the most important, and being able to change your focus is certainly something very simple and valuable to do. I suppose that “change your focus” has a double meaning. It could mean, change what you are looking at with your eyes, or it could mean, change what you are focusing on within your mind and thoughts. Now you might have the belief that, being a training company in NLP and Hypnosis, that we mostly specialise in teaching others how to change their focus within their mind and thoughts, and this would be true. A lot of what we teach on our NLP and Hypnotherapy courses is about changing what we are each doing in their heads. However, there is a valuable technique that we teach on both our NLP and Hypnotherapy course, which is a simple process of changing the way you focus your eyes and the benefit of this technique is endless.
The technique is called the peripheral vision and basically means expanding your vision to see into the periphery. This is the opposite of foveal vision, the acute concentrated vision that you would have if you were for example, threading a needle. If you think about threading a needle and focusing your attention in that way, you could easily miss all of the other things that could be going on around you. When in peripheral vision, your focus is so expanded, you almost feel that you could see behind the back of your own head!
So why learn peripheral vision? The Hawaiian Huna's have known of its benefits for many decades, using it as part of a deep meditative trance called Hakalau. During Hakalau, the individual goes into peripheral vision, breathes in to the count of 8 and out to the count of 4 using a “haa” breath. This regulates breathing, and changing the brain waves, inducing a state of deep relaxation, in which it is impossible to hold onto any negative thought, idea or notion.
Using peripheral vision alone, it is a resourceful state for learning, as your mind is open to the ideas that a teacher may give you. If you just try out using Foveal and peripheral vision, you will notice that Foveal vision, comes with a degree of tension,and tension is not so good for learning. We learn best in a happy relaxed environment as this helps us to associate the knowledge we receive with feeling good and therefore makes us much more likely to retrieve and use the information that we have stored in the future.
Peripheral vision so easy to do, that I'm going to teach you right now. Simply find a spot on the wall, just a little above your eye level, on which to fix your gaze. Without moving your eyes, begin to become aware of the things around that spot, allowing your awareness to expand further and further out. Take your hands out in front of you and wiggle your fingers, moving your hands further back toward your head, past your eyes and level with your ears. See how far back you can move your hands, whilst still being aware of your fingers moving, with your gaze still fixed to the spot on the ceiling. If you want to, when you have achieved peripheral vision, you can try using the “Haa” breath at the same time.
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The Big Phobia Cure
In case you didn't know already, Red Nose Day is Friday 16th March 2007. In an exclusive charitable event, People Building training providers of Hypnotherapy and NLP throughout Hertfordshire, Bedfordshire, Buckinghamshire and London are going to be performing an event for the general public.
As far as we are aware, it is a first in comic relief history and they are going to be working for free to rid the nation of it's phobias. Please bear in mind that as individuals, these guys charge around £65.00 per hour for their time.
This event is completely free, but you will be expected to make a donation towards Comic Relief.
A Phobia is an intense irrational fear that is usually caused by an event in the past where fear was experienced. Using our imagination, the stimulus of the phobia (spiders, dogs, heights, flights) gets blown out of proportion over time. However sometimes, phobias are learned from someone influential.
The phobia cure will be 24th February 2007, times for afternoon arrival will be posted on our website, nearer the time. During the event, there will be 3 main techniques used to eradicate the phobias.
NLP- Understanding minds communication and how we code information. By changing the way we use this we can improve our results.
NLP Fast Phobia Technique- Install positive resource emotions, that can be tapped into throughout the process, to act as a safety net. We then detaches the fear from the stimulus, by desensitises the fear. This is done by replaying times in the past when the fear has been experienced very fast in Black &White, then backwards in colour using the imagination and memory.
EFT- Tapping on acupuncture/meridian points in body to balance emotions.
Hypnosis- For a relaxed state, to boost confidence by imagining it going really well the next time you are faced with your old fear.
Test- to notice fear has gone or is significantly reduced.
We intend to have a laugh, because it's really good at defusing fear!
Comic relief raised over £425 million since 1985. We want to make our contribution, and look forward to you assisting us to do it!
The event is going to be held at the Express Holiday Inn, Apsley Lock, Hemel Hempstead, Hertfordshire. May I take this opportunity to extend my thanks to the Express Holiday Inn who have kindly agreed to sponsor us on the day. However, we still need a reptile company to come and exhibit their creatures when we test how well the phobias have worked at the end.
Our website is being revamped, if details are not yet there when you look, visit again, or email your details to us and we will let you know all of the information needed.
Learn To Make Your Submodalities Work For You!
As human beings, we make sense of the world through our five senses (sight, hearing, touch, taste and smell).This is the only information we have about the world and this information is used to make up our internal representations of the world.
What this means is that every thought, memory or use of imagination, contains information from our senses.So, it may comprise pictures, sounds, feelings, smells or taste.
Furthermore, the information from our five senses contains lots of different qualities and distinctions.So for example a picture can be moving or still, bright or dim, black and white or colour, a good or poor contrast, 3-D of flat.In fact, many more distinctions can be made for pictures and all the other senses.
If you have not heard about Neuro Linguistic Programming (NLP), you may never have given much thought to how you code information in your brain.NLP has a name for the finer distinctions of our senses –submodalities.Its not something that we really think about, but it is extremely valuable to know about.
This is because it is possible to modify or change how memories are coded in our brains and as a result change the meaning of the memory.By making changes to the coding, memories and imaginings about the future can be made more or less intense, positive or negative, more desirable or less real.
Have you ever had the experience of thinking about a past event, or suddenly remembering something and feeling intense unpleasant feelings?It may be that you have a fear of something, and some kind of trigger, a word, smell or sound etc may set you off, so that you experience all those unpleasant feelings.
NLP, which is an understanding of how we code experience in our brain, has a range of techniques, which can be used to reduce or eradicate the intensity of remembered experiences.Its possible to take an unpleasant memory, examine how it is coded and then make changes so that it is no longer unpleasant and the emotion can just drain away.
If you suffer from unpleasant memories or fears, an NLP therapist can help you deal with this, via submodality work.These treatments are available from my therapy practice, where I use NLP, Hertfordshire.
You can also learn to be aware of the impact of how you code experience yourself.The best way to learn about submodalities is to experience them.
Try the following:
Have a think about something that is unpleasant or uncomfortable for you, it doesn't have to be something really intense, it could be thinking about something that annoyed you recently.
When you think about it do you have a picture?
If so, where is the picture located, is it near or far? -If it's near make it far and if its far, make it near.
How does that feel?Place the picture wherever if feels best.
You could make other changes to the picture, try turning the brightness up or down,
if its black or white make it colour and vice versa.
Do you see yourself in the picture, your whole body?Or are you re-living it, as if through your own eyes.If you are seeing yourself in the picture, try becoming associated so that you are seeing through your own eyes and vice versa so that if you are associated, try viewing the picture dissociated with your whole body in it.
Are there any important sounds to go with the picture?
If there is a voice, try changing it to something funny, perhaps Donald Duck, or a really sexy husky voice!
You can turn the volume up or down, make the tonality and quality clearer and even change where the sounds are coming from.Again just play around to see what changes make the memory more pleasant.
Think about the feelings that go with the memory
Where are they located?
Try, moving the feelings to somewhere else, say your little toe.
If they are moving, try making them still or vice versa
What shape are the feelings? You could make them into a purple, fuzzy, vibrating blob, the size of an apple pip, located in your little toe!!Notice the change in how they feel as you play around with them.
I use NLP submodality techniques during NLP, Hertfordshire.NLP is effective in treating a whole range of psychological and behavioural difficulties.
The Religion of NLP
I find it fascinating that as people, we are drawn to the idea of being part of something bigger than ourselves. We want to find unity and yet still be unique, we want to have similarities but not be the same.
For me, religion is a classic example of where people can find unity and common ground, or common beliefs. So a couple of weeks ago, I tried out the whole religion thing. I've not been bought up in a religious family, nor was my school particularly religious- although we sang hymns and the such like, prayer time was more of an opportunity to sit with my eyes half shut whilst sneakily looking around to see who was genuinely into this praying malarkey, then usually discovering that the rest of the school was doing the same.
So this was my experience. My friend has been bought up in a very religious family and for him, popping off to church for the evening, was probably equated to the ease at which I could pop to the pub. But church for me was quite an event, so I took the plunge one week and went with him.
We got fed (great!) and it was cheap (very great!) but I have to say that I was quite surprised to see a bunch of Christian grandma's dishing out rice and veg, with a decent sized lump of chicken breast on each plate. “That's funny”, I thought “they've managed to get gods permission to eat his creatures. There must be some sort of arrangement, where they spread his love and he lets them know it's ok to eat chicken”. Still I know that Jesus ate fish and if it's good enough for him….
After the food, the vicar got up and did a presentation about Jesus and how we can know that he really existed. It was a good presentation. The vicar was quite charismatic and pretty funny too. Then after that, we sat at our tables and had a chat about what the vicar had talked about. It seemed that all the regulars were pretty sold on what the vicar had said, and I felt like a bit of a trouble maker by throwing some new ideas into the agenda. It's not that I didn't believe that Jesus walked the earth, in my opinion, he probably did. But I don't think he was the only smart spiritual being to have ever set foot on our planet. There's a lot of convincing stuff about other religious folk from other religions. This concept wasn't welcomed I found, when I planted it on 'em. Now, don't get me wrong, they were a nice bunch and no-one accused me of being in cahoots with the devil when I told them that I'm a hypnotist (although that has happened since!) But when they began to discuss the power of prayer and I linked this to a higher consciousness rather than a higher being, I knew I was pushing my luck.
The thing for me, is that life is filled with possibilities, all the time in everything that you ever do or say, you have an abundance of other possibilities that you could take. How then, could anything you ever do, ever be wrong, or sinful. Would someone so great, powerful and majestic as god really spend his time watching a DVD of each of us throughout our entire lives, ready to place judgement on us when our time is up, and tell us if we're spending the rest of eternity in his kingdom or in the fiery furnace of hell. That's a tough call, how would He ever decide. Some people have done some really bad stuff, but they might have done it with a positive intention.
You're probably guessing by now that I am in no way qualified to speak about religion. I don't claim to be, but bear with me.
My other concern for a long time has been, that there are a lot of good people in the world. Surely then heaven must be suffering from over crowding, not least from the vast array of rabbits, hamsters, and goldfish I've had over the years, that my nan told me had all gone to heaven when they'd popped their clogs. I guess there are dead architects up there, god must have got them to create high rise building like they have in China. Especially since Jesus said that the entire kingdom of heaven is smaller than the mustard seed.
If you were married and your partner died, then you met someone else and got married again, which partner do you end up spending the rest of eternity with when you die?
In my confusion, I decided to relate what I'd learnt to the presuppositions of NLP, since they had for me for the last few years, been my bible.
This is what I came up with.
Everyone has a unique model of the world. This could mean that what you absolutely believe to be true, is true (for you at least) so if one person has absolute belief in god, then he exists, and if someone else believes that he doesn't then, for that person, he doesn't.
The map is not the territory. In quantum physics, the whole contains the part and the part contains the whole. In the same way that an apple contains a part which is just a seed, the seed contains all the information required to grow into a tree and create further apples. So I could be god (it has been said!) at the quantum level. When I die the tiniest quantum part of me that remains, could be god, who has the power to create further things.
The meaning of all behaviour is dependent upon the context it exists in. This might means that there is no judgement at death.
All behaviour has a positive intention and everyone one is doing the best that they can with the resources that they have available. No hell maybe?
Everyone has all the resources they need to succeed and to achieve their desired outcome. Knock and the door shall be opened unto you.
There is no failure only feedback. My flesh and my heart may fail, but god is my strength for ever.
I'd never thought about NLP as a spiritual tool before, more as a series of change techniques, but this ever evolving subject continually inspires me to take on new perspectives in my life. I'm thinking now about starting up a spiritual group- no not a cult!- something where people can meet together and discuss their ideas about the meaning of life etc. It will probably create more questions than answer, but what's the harm in that. When we think we know the answer to something, we become cut off from all of the other possible answers. When we have only questions, we also have the wealth of possible answers- you might like to call that confusion! Possibilities create many opportunities, and I suppose the one thing that I discovered about my introduction to religion, is that sometimes religion is about stating what you can and can't do, say or believe, how you should or shouldn't behave and this could limit life's opportunities. I'd like to be part of something that is open to limitless possibilities of being, I think that that's the way god would like me to be.
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Change your Beliefs
Has anyone ever told you that belief is everything? Indeed it would be true to say that the success of my Hypnotherapy business in Hemel Hempstead ,is dependent on belief alone. Working as a hypnotherapist means that my clients belief in my ability to help them, or even induce a hypnotic trance, is solely down to their belief in me.
So what exactly are beliefs, and why are they important? Beliefs are the things that underpin our values, they are the things we need to do or have happen, in order for the values to be met, and in order for us to feel like we are functioning properly within our lives. For example, someone might have the value of Security. In order for their need for security to be met, they may believe that they need to have a job that pays a certain salary, or a car, or be in a particular type of relationship.
So we have established what beliefs are and why they are important, but what happens when our beliefs are no longer serving us? Is it true that we may have some old beliefs that maybe had a purpose once, but no longer serve us now? For example, A lady came to see me at my practice in Hemel Hempstead, who had always been very shy. She felt that hypnotherapy would help. She had learned all that there was to know about presenting and technically she was fine, but every time she got up to speak, a part of her was screaming inside “What are you doing? You're not brave enough to do this!” This obviously would then put her off, and the courage she had been building up, would dissolve away, meaning that the little voice inside which had said she couldn't do it, had again been right.
There are also instances when one belief has a conflict with another. For example, when I first began running my own business doing Hypnotherapy in Hemel Hempstead, one of my values was the freedom this gave me, and this was met by believing I needed to spend lots of time relaxing. However, one of my other values was Money, and I believed that I needed to work long hours to make a lot of money- which proved to be in conflict with spending lots of time relaxing!
The good news is, that in my hypnotherapy practice in Hemel Hempstead, there is an NLP technique which is used to change a persons beliefs. This is extremely effective (and quick) and not only changes old beliefs, but the second half of the process is spent installing a new and more empowering belief- something you would like to believe instead. This is done by changing the coding that we give to something (e.g. a belief) by changing the submodalities of it. Submodalities are the fine details that help to make up our memories or references in our minds, for example, if the memory or reference is a picture, the submodalities would tell us whether it is a picture in black and white or colour, how bright the picture is and how big. By changing the coding, we cannot not change the meaning of the belief, it will always be changed, and sometimes a small change is all it takes.