Plus there is a question from Gemma about Common Purpose….

It has been working extremely well with children.

Sometimes using “formal” trance doesn’t work. Especially with children and adults with busy brains that they cannot quiet.

It is working well because I think, I’m throwing it in at the end of a session, just as one might do with a session of hypnosis to round off the other great work you may have done using NLP techniques.

I say something like “Ok, we have covered everything we can here today with the time that we had available but we still have a few minutes left. A few minutes to fill with something…..is there anything else you wanted to mention? An little issues you wanted to clear out having sorted all the other stuff we did earlier?”

There are a couple of sneaky presuppositions thrown in here

1) The issues they will share will be little, whether they used to perceive them that way or not.

2) The issues will be cleared out. Their minds will be clear as soon as the issue is out of their mouth

3) We have assumed that the stuff we worked on earlier is sorted now.

Once they have told me the issue, I then respond to it with a story, anecdote or reframe which allows them to access thinking and feeling about overcoming the issue. I ask them very little but say a lot, sometimes acting things out or making it funny.

It’s not about having a conversation. It is an awakened trance which is achievable because they are relaxed having overcome some challenges/learned some techniques to help them overcome challenges already. It in some ways works better than diving into a trance at the beginning of the session because they have had plenty of time for rapport building and relaxing. They are in a much more comfortable place by the end of the session compared to at the start.

Sometimes I use the awakened trance at the end of my consultations too. Once they have offloaded their problems and received some hope of a solution they become very relieved and very suggestible. Quite often people have come to see me at the start of their treatment, claiming that they are getting better already just from the consultation, although no formal work was done.

A great example of an awakened trance recently was a boy I worked with who was self harming. He had cuts to his hands, knees and arms.

We had worked together for 3 sessions and on the 3rd session we had 10 minutes to use up at the end of the session. He said he felt everything was going to be ok now so I asked the question above to find out if there were any little things that we could mop up before I let him go for good.

He said that sometimes his scabs were itchy where the self harming was stopping and beginning to heal. I told him it’s where the skin is pulling back together to rejoin and heal. “The itchiness means the skin is pulling and fusing. All of those little red marks that are left by the scabs after they fall off completely on their own, will be red for a while because they are brand new skin for a brand new body. But in just a few months from now they will no longer be red and then you will forget that they ever were or that you ever used to harm yourself.”

It was just 10 minutes of saying things like this, putting his problems in a forgotten past and accepting that everything will be fresh and new in the future. I think it made a difference.

There is also a session of hypnosis at the end of the show to get you all set for 2011.

We also go through the main points of the NLP forgiveness model to help you forgive all those scallywags that wronged you in the past.

Our relaxation session focuses on forgiving those who trespassed against you.

The challenge is directing that energy towards the things that you want to grow, and not the things that are bothering or irritating you.

Perhaps you have had some sort of negative experience in the past that caused you to have a good long rant about the situation or circumstance and noticed that the more energy you put into it, the more frustrated and angry you became. In the same way you have probably also had a similar situation but instead focused your energy on seeking a solution or resolution and noticed how motivated and powerful you became.

Wherever your energy is focused, there is power, you are literally dishing it out by the bucket load. So if you find that a situation is draining you or frustrating you, you must consider where your energy about that issue is being directed. Are you adding your power to a solution or to fuel the problem itself?

If you spend your energy worrying and fretting about all of the things you need to get done, but never taking the action to do them, you are using up 10 times more energy than you would to just get on and do the blooming thing you should be doing! The reasoning is simple, it’s because again your energy is directed in a negative way – your energy is going into worry and fret. This will zap your energy so rapidly that you just have to think of all the things you should be doing and are not, and you will instantly notice a shift in the levels of energy you have.

But when your energy is positively focus on doing the thing you need to do (otherwise known as taking action) the momentum you gain simply gives you even more energy. Your energy increases as a result of you being up and moving and taking action.

It’s a bit like how some people find that they feel more awake, alert and alive after going to the gym. The physical exertion , for some, fuels even more energy in their body. Even if this doesn’t happen immediately, most people do find that as a result of focusing on moving their physical body, they generally feel more alive and energised.

Someone once told me that completions restore energy to the spirit. I supposed that this ties in with what I have said already about spending time focused on what isn’t done is far more energy consuming that actually doing it.

Though there is a special kind of energy that arrives when something in life is completed. It’s that insertion of the final piece of the puzzle which give s a sigh of “It’s done!” There is a special kind of pride and relaxation that bring with them a relaxed energy, but a relaxed energy that is guilt free! Not the kind you experience when you are relaxing but also avoiding!

So in summery:

Focus your energy on solutions not problems

Use your energy for action taking instead of procrastination

Complete your incompletions and restore energy to your spirit.

By Gemma Bailey
www.NLP4Kids.org

Now selling doesn’t just apply to used cars salesmen! You are all selling everyday- selling the idea to your boss that you should leave half an hour early today, selling the film you want your partner to go and watch with you at the cinema….

So don’t be put off by the title – you’re all selling something. Now you can discover the most elegant way to do it!

The membership is totally optional so of course some people just take the 6 free CD’s. It’s a bit of an irresistible offer for any one interested in self development as the 6 CD’s contain:

Technique No.1 will tell you:
How to instantly improve your emotional state.
Where most people go wrong with this NLP technique.
How to increase the potency of the positive emotions you desire.

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Resolve conflicts with others.
Help you develop the ability to see the world from another person’s point of view.
Genuinely feel empathy understanding of the emotions of others therefore increasing rapport and resolving unease in relationships.

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Obliterate significant emotional events from the past and resolve past hurts and injustices.
Offer you the opportunity to forgive yourself and others.

(3 CD set valued at £197.00)

With our 2 Hypnosis CDs you’re going to discover how to:
Achieve total body relaxation and how to develop a trigger that will allow you to return to that deeply relaxed state whenever you want.
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Learn the importance of slowing your mind for better health and wellbeing.
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The 6th CD will unravel the truths that powerful speakers keep secret. It includes:
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Learn the words that are proven to cause others to take action and respond to your instructions.
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(CD valued at £47.00)

The offer is still running at the moment but I’m sure we’ll pull the plug when we’ve got too many members in the PB Member Club. If you haven’t got  the 6 Free CDs you might want to get then now before the offer is finished. Visit www.specialofferfromgemma.com to get your free set.

Greed is a terrible for of selfishness.

OR

Greed is good.

Listen to the show and decide for yourself.

About 4 years ago, I fractured my ankle. It was something that was just meant to happen. The odds were highly stacked against me. I was in a nightclub on a  Spanish island and I was wearing high, high shoes (now affectionately known as “the ankle breakers”). The club had a tiled floor and they had just had a foam party so it was really slippery. Oh and there was also a tiny, tiny step which wasn’t marked out. And potentially I might have had a little bit of wine too.

So anyway, I slipped and my ankle bent in a way that isn’t normally humanly possible and there was a nasty noise. I tried to get up but couldn’t put any weight on it and knew it was bad, bad news.

I got to the hospital, had it x-rayed and they confirmed it was fractured.

The doctor wanted to operate and stick some pins in but I was due to fly home the next day and my Spanish can just about get me a beer but probably wouldn’t cover me for a hospital stay. So I told the doc to wrap it up in plaster cast and send me on my way.

He said they would have to plaster it with the bone back in the right place and that they’d need to push it back whilst plastering me up. This, he said was going to hurt quite a lot and said I’d need some pain killer. The only problem is that I’m allergic to morphine and he didn’t have anything else to offer me. He was pretty worried about this but I was fine about it and just said “I’m a hypnotist, I’ll put myself into trance.”

We got into the special plastering room and I started to get myself into state. Out of the corner of my mind I saw a nurse coming over with a needle. The doctor quickly told her something along the lines of “No need she’s doing hypnosis on herself” (but he said it to her in Spanish obviously.)

I used Hakalau to manage my state- breathing in for the count of 8 and out for the count of 4 whilst also using peripheral vision. I’d previously used this technique when I was on my NLP Master practitioner training and on the last day we did a glass walk. It was a big stretch of broken bottles and in order to walk over them without slicing your feet up you had to utilize the breathing technique and the vision at the same time. Some people who didn’t quite get it right did end up with cuts on their feet.

It took about half an hour and I was aware at times that some pain kicked in, but I quickly got rid of it by focusing my attention elsewhere.

The Doctors and nurses were suitably impressed and sent me on my way with some paracetamol.

Which I never took.

By Gemma Bailey
www.gemmabailey.co.uk

Archibald Lochrie was jailed yesterday after being convicted of the repeated sex abuse of a girl – starting when she was just five.

His victim, now 30, told a jury how the offences came flooding back to her after she went to a hypnotherapist.

Although she told the jury she had kept the “secrets” from her family for 20 years and had remembered what happened to her as a child, she was helped to recall it by hypnotherapy.

Lochrie, 42, of Meadowside Place, Airdrie, Lanarkshire, abused the victim between the ages of five and nine.

The attacks happened in a house in the town’s Target Road between 1986 and 1989.

He was convicted by majority by a jury after a five-day trial last month at Airdrie Sheriff Court.

Read the full article by the daily record.